Objectify Me

I in no way, shape, or form want to make this post give the image that I blog about "feminism," or that I am a feminist. I just need to inform all you men out there what I (and a slew of other women) think.

Objectifying someone is not the same as being attracted to them. Attraction is natural and a very good thing, but objectification is manufactured and terrible.

Objectification is the media constantly portraying women as objects for men's pleasure.

Every Cosmopolitan magazine I looked at mentioned "sex" at least one time. You'll notice on the first magazine in the bottom right hand corner "Why every woman should date an ugly man." I would bet money that a man wrote that. An ugly man. Where's the men's magazine telling them to date an "ugly" girl?

Oh yeah, that's right. There should be no "ugly" girls, because no one wants them. (?) At least that's what the media is telling me. Notice on TV shows there are all different types of guys that date one different type of girl:

Objectification is when I hear 

        "Did you f***** so-and-so at that party?"

        " Yeah, bro."

        "Nice."

        "Yeah."

        "Did you say anything to her after that?"

        "No."

        " What's your number again?"

        "12"

        "Nice. I'm at 10."

        

What's wrong with this? Absolutely nothing, to them. I think it's appalling. They're barely adults and already sleeping around. No commitment. But that's normal.

Objectification is pressuring your girlfriend to do something she doesn't want to do. But it's because "you love her." Then once you get what you want you leave. (Okay, this one is from personal experience) 

It's regular halloween costumes for boys, but sexy ones for girls. 

Men are seen by society as whole people. Their personality, their style, their sense of humor, their work ethic. But women are seen as sex objects. And it needs to stop. 

Yes, some girls seek out attention. Yes many girls dress provocatively. They are trying to live up to men's standards. They are trying to be like what you watch:

Because women are so used to being put down by guys who expect perfection from us, diseases like anorexia and bulimia have become normal for girls. Most guys would not recognize a girl with one of these disorders, because they are hidden. 

In the US, 27% of girls 12-18 have an eating disorder, while 31% of college females do. So it's someone you know. 

These are the standards YOU have set. But I am a real woman. We have stretch marks and fat from the babies you gave us. We have wrinkles from laughter and spots from the sun. Our foreheads are marked with the stress from living, making a house, and raising children. And this is who we are.

And We Are Beautiful