Why you don't need to "find a girlfriend"

So recently a boy I go to school with put up a Facebook status that read, "I really need to find a girlfriend."

Now, there are many different angles I could write about this from, one being a feminist view. Girlfriends are not something you can just go out and pick up off the street. Those are called prostitutes. A quality girl you have to work for.

But my point in writing this is not to slam him. Let's call him Joey, because that's his name.

Here is the full conversation:

Okay, he says he just wants a girlfriend 'to have someone to talk to.' It seems like a nice thing. That comment, at first glance, would make him seem like a nice guy. 

But considering he said that having a (deep) conversation is "gay," how do you think he will treat his would-be girlfriend when she is the one who wants to have a conversation? 

But going back to my main point, for all you gentlemen (and Joey) who feel like you have to find a girlfriend:

A quality girl will not be found. 

However, that is not to say that there are none out there. When you are searching for a girl, you are desperate (even if it's just a little desperation. More than likely you will never admit to yourself that you are, in fact, desperate). And that will only lead you to find an equally desperate and needy girl. 

Second, adding on to point no. 1, is to not be wanting a "girlfriend", be wanting a friend. Whether it is a boy or a girl. Yes, everyone has the need to have a deep conversation with someone. Everyone needs to talk. But having a conversation does not require a significant other. It requires a friend. Someone, anyone, you can trust. 

And trust me, I know finding someone to trust is by no means easy. It takes time. 

It helps if you have been friends with someone for a long time. But also, you need to connect with them, and they have been known by others to be reliable, too. It's easy to ask a person's friends what is good about them, but try asking the people that don't like them. You may be surprised. 

Once you know if the person you like is 

a. reliable to all people, all the time (trustworthy) and

b. you are already friends with them

Ask yourself this:

Do you really want to be in a romantic or physical relationship with them? (This question is for anyone under the age of 23)

You obviously have a very good thing going on here, and if you did become physical with them, and things didn't work out, you will never have the same friendship you had before. Let me say that again.

You will NEVER end a relationship and go back to "THE WAY THINGS WERE BEFORE". 

It does not happen. 

Now, I know you're probably thinking that if you never go from a friendship to a "relationship", you will always be "friend-zoned." But think about this:

You marry your best friend. 

Don't ruin that friendship before you're ready to marry them. 

I hope someone is able to take something out of this. I would love any kind of comment. :) Joey- good luck